Networlding Versus Networking

Networlding relationships start when you clearly express your intent in the broad sense of the word. Quickly and convincingly, you communicate your goals and values, and when you do so, people who resonate to your intent will respond. If someone responds positively and you are able to establish a Networlding relationship, you can reap tremendous benefits. Your new partner will not only do more for you in terms of opportunities but in providing an empathetic ear and a source of fresh ideas.

In contrast, networking connections are flimsy because they lack support. When networking, people are bound together because one person needs another to do a deal or create a sale. One particular situation binds them together, and as soon as this situation disintegrates or disappears, there’s nothing left of the relationship to keep it strong
enough to survive.

Networlding VS Networking

  • Values-Based versus  Goals-Based
  • Leveraged Learning versus  Duplication of Efforts
  • Long-term Commitment versus Temporary Commitment
  • Relational versus  Transactional
  • Conscious and Strategic Process versus Haphazard Process
  • Mutually Beneficial versus  One-Sided
  • Systematic versus  Fragmented
  • Holistic versus Materialistic
  • Intimate versus Superficial
  • Opportunity Expansive versus Opportunity Specific
  • Multi-Dimensional versus Two-Dimensional

 

Make 2013 Your Year of Connection!

As you start 2013 it might be an interesting exercise to think about how you have been going about creating new opportunities. As I have tried to navigate the journey of my life and career I started noticing that all of the great thing that seemed to come my way were a result of a few very important relationships I had established. As I explored this dynamic I found more reasons as to why I was attracting new possibilities or not. In our book “Networking is Dead: Making Connections that Matter”, Melissa and I outline 10 principles we have discovered that work to more effectively and efficiently create a vibrant network that produces a steady stream of value.

Where to start? Define your ‘WHY”! Many people have their “WHAT” and “WHY” confused. Take some time as you start your year to think about why you do what you do. What difference do you want to make? What do you believe in that drives you? By getting clear on your “WHY” you open up new possibilities and might find that you see people you know in new ways.

Once you have your “WHY” more defined make 2013 your year of connection. Not just any connection, but connections that matter. Connections where you build mutual exchanges that help both parties bring their “WHY” to life.

In order to help create an even stronger movement towards 2013 being the year of connection, Melissa and I have decided to offer 2013 free copies of our book to people who are:

  • a manager of a team of five or more
  • interested in applying the principles of making connections that matter
  • willing to have a candid, no-obligation chat with us about your need to build more vibrant leadership networks

If this is you, click here to fill out a form to share your compelling WHY with us and if we are a fit, we will gift you with free books and a 45-minute webinar. A limited number are available so apply early.

We can’t wait to hear your success stories throughout 2013.

All the best,

Larry and Melissa

Creating Connections That Matter Publicly

I had a great person connect with me on LinkedIn this last week. I decided instead of telling you what to do to help you build a more successful network of growth and mutually beneficial support, I will show you. Let’s see where this takes all of us. Below is the email I sent to Brandon today after he connected with me wanting to help build a stronger community of support for entrepreneurs.

Hint: I start with the number one Networlding belief: “Anything is Possible” which is all having no expectations. As my son, Gavin, who is a writer often says to me, “Mom, you have high hopes and low expectations.” Let’s see how that works here.

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Brandon,

I totally agree with you. If we could just engage enough this way, one-to-one, first, you and I, and then build some kind of connection connected to a small opportunity, then share with others how we did that, we can create more and better opportunities faster.

It’s counter intuitive for most. Most people start out grabbing all the friends they can. But it makes things move much faster to:

1) find someone with similar or complementary values (for ex. you care about making a difference and so do they).
2) exchange support through one small opportunity (whatever that looks like. I could be each of us with different opportunities or one opportunity with “co-create).
3) realize arespective (I want something and you want something)  or collective (we both want similar things) opportunities.
4) share insights with one another on the subtle nuances of achieving those opportunities as well as with others in our community so they too can achieve results.

Are you game? If yes. Let’s do this.

It’s a public invite.

Best,

Melissa

“Happiness is not having what you want but wanting what you have.”
Anonymous

Melissa Giovagnoli Wilson
Founder and CEO, Networlding (also a top-ten Amazon book for a year)
Publishing experts, social media innovation (strategy and implementation), leadership networks
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Did You Know Networking is Dead?

So What’s Next?

Learn to Build Connections that Matter!

Networking is Dead.This statement describes the current state of this over networked, noisy world. It’s also the title of Melissa G Wilson’s and Larry Mohl’s new book.

Created in a business parable, you will learn from Lance and Meredith, and Dan their mentor, how to grow new, long-term opportunities rather than heaps of new “friends” or business cards that lack ongoing exchanges. This book offers the following unique concepts:

  • How quality creates quantity (flipping the paradigm on growing “friends” by the thousands)
  • How Why you want to connect with others is more important than What you want
  • How to slow down to speed up
  • Understand the difference between Givers, Takers and the new world of Exchangers
  • Five levels of exchange that will create ongoing, new opportunities
  • How the introduction has become the new referral
  • What to do now that 6 Degrees has collapsed to 2 Degrees
In a world of social networks, teleconferencing, and texting you have increased access for meeting people yet decreased your chances of getting value from your relationships if you don’t create, build and sustain connections differently.Networking is Dead has grown out of a book Melissa co-authored with the first Chief Marketing Officer of Motorola and then Office Depot, over twelve years ago, calledNetworlding. That book held a top ten Amazon spot for an entire year. Since then I have licensed the methodology shared in this book to schools like Yale University and corporations like Motorola University. Larry Mohl, Melissa’s co-author, was Chief Learning Officer at American Express, where he worked with Melissa to provide training on the development of networks to leaders inside his company. Over the past decade Melissa and Larry have been fine tuning their collaborative process to help professionals learn the art and science of building successful networks. Their work developed into the foundation for the book.

As a story, Networking is Dead engages readers, showing them rather than telling them how to build better relationships of trust and joint, expanding opportunities in this new world of connecting where the rules have definitely changed . . . forever!

If you are a book reviewer (blogger or other writer) and would like us to send a copy of the book for review, please email melissa @ networlding.com.

 

 

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